What do You Really Want?
One of the most crucial pieces to the manifestation puzzle is knowing what you want.
I’ve heard it put this way before: If you want to get to a specific burger joint, you have to have the exact address. Putting the name of the city in the GPS will get you close, but it won’t get you a burger. Being able to clearly communicate your desire for universal intelligence depends on knowing the specifics. Seems simple, but a lot of people struggle with this.
Here’s the thing, most people are spending way more energy focusing on avoiding the things they don’t want, rather on feeling into what they do want. I have found, very often, what people truly want is deeply hidden, even from them.
This failure to recognize what we want manifests in a myriad of ways. For me, I had a subconscious belief that what I really wanted was totally unattainable, and frankly, laughable, so I built around me a persona of confusion. I walked around saying to myself that I “didn’t know” what I wanted because the truth was too painful to face.
My best friend recently shared with me her experience with this. She has spent the better part of 13 years laser-focused on her career goals. And while she has truly built an impressive career, once she is rightfully proud of, she realized that this hyper-focus on one area of her life has served to distract her from a deep desire she never let herself admit.
If you are working with identifying what you want, ask yourself these questions:
When in my life was I most happy?
When in my life did I feel most safe?
When in my life did I feel most proud?
When do I feel most like myself?
What do I value most?
If money/time/fear/guilt/shame was not a consideration, what would I spend my time doing?
What activities/people/places make me feel energized?
Who do I want to spend more time with?
Look at your answers and search for commonalities; words, phrases, feelings that come up more than once. Then ask yourself why. At the heart of that answer will be something you most cherish. Try to project into the future what having a bigger experience of that would mean. For instance, if one of the things you most value is time spent with family, try to imagine what having a bigger experience of that would look like. A family vacation? A date night every week?
Allow yourself to feel into that vision, and admit to yourself you want it with zero doubt that it’s already yours.