Don't Be Sad
My husband loved to journal. He had journals upon journals, filled to the brim with his thoughts, ideas, hopes, and dreams; for this, I will be forever grateful. When I was packing up our home before leaving LA, a letter dropped out of one of those many journals, almost as if it wanted to be found. The letter was addressed to our son and was written in the wake of the plane crash that claimed the lives of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and 7 others – a tragedy that tugged on the heartstrings of people around the globe and hit especially close to home for my husband, an LA native who considered Kobe a hero.
The shock of such a sudden and unexpected death inspired my husband to write a note to his son(s), detailing all the things he wanted him to know. (This was written before my second son was born). Because of this letter, I never have to question what Joe would want to tell our boys and the lessons he wanted them to know. I carry these words with me and instill them in my sons every day.
Dear Son,
Today a childhood hero of mine passed away with his daughter in a helicopter crash and left behind 3 daughters and his wife. What saddens me most is that his children will not have their father in their life.
It’s because of this is why I am writing you this letter, just in case of my untimely death. Son, DONT BE SAD!!! Not for one moment. You are more than anything I could have hoped or dreamed of from a son. If I was to have one day with you it would fill my heart for many lifetimes.
Some things I want to instill in you with this letter is this…
Smile always
Never lose your cool
Love everyone
Never give up
Work Hard at whatever you do
Respect your mother
Meditate and pray
Help others always
But most importantly be you. Never change your zest for life. You are an extraordinary light!!! You will be a leader and a man that can be trusted. You are a bright star to a dark night so always be kind.
I named you after my best friend. He had flaws and made mistakes in his life but he was the realest, strongest man I ever met. He saved my life on several occasions and was the realest friend I ever had in my life.
I love you so much son. Always know that and even if you don’t see me I will be by your side through every moment.
Chin up, laugh, smile, cry, do it all but never be sad. When you want to be close to me sit under the stars and breathe deeply. One of my favorite memories was holding you in my arms to show you the stars and listen to your breath and say WOW!!!
Never lose that wonder of the world!
Love always, Your Dad.
